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Sunday, August 30, 2009, 6:49 PM
Becoming June
The first time that I read this I was 19 years old! Stupidly Married and way to young to have been mature enough to handle a enlightened approach to such radical ideals. When my then ex-husband handed it to me, I laughed... Not just a polite giggle, but a roll in the floor and kick your feet type laugh! It seems I couldn't hold my tongue back then and I still can't. Were women being sedated or beaten into submission back then??, Really come on, Who does this stuff??!! I really can't see how anyone would subject themselves to these kinds of expectations and submissive attitudes otherwise. When my current husband and I got married (Yes I divorced the other one for clear and obvious reasons) he knew that I refused and continue to adamantly object to becoming a "1950's JUNE CLEAVER! 1955 House Keeping Monthly "The Good Wife Guide" Verbatim Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. and then run a dust cloth over the tables. Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction. Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash their hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him. Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first-remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours. Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax. Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order, and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit. Don't greet him with complaints and problems. Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing, and pleasant voice. Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him. A good wife always knows her place. There is no doubt in my mind that "The Good Wife's Guide" was written by a man, probably one who had never been married and probably never did get married, for apparent reasons. Tune in Tonight for my conclusions to my experiment Becoming June! Also my personal thoughts and revised edition of "The Good Wife Guide"(which will posted at later Date!) The "Fem Mah Nyst" Amber Joy |
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